Managing Preschool Separation Anxiety by By Amanda Rock

It really do get into parents seeing their young ones putting up a fit, screaming on top of their lungs, clinging ever so tightly to your blouse, begging you to take them home or crying, "Mummy! Mummy!..."  

Welcome to the world of preschoolers' separation anxiety attack. Face it head on but with much love and patience, your child will eventually fit in and walks happily to the daycare centre.

Time Required: As long as it takes

Here's How:

1. Say goodbye.  Give your child a hug and a kiss, tell her you'll be back soon and then walk out the door. Don't delay, don't give her "one more minute," don't linger, hoping that she'll miraculously start smiling and laughing, happy to go and play with her preschool chums. You've brought her to preschool and now it's time to let her get to the business of being a preschooler.
2. Trust your child's teacher. Preschool teachers, even newly-minted ones, know kids. They've done this before and have many ways and methods in their bag of tricks to help calm your little one down. From redirecting to a new activity to simply giving your child a hug and offering comfort, preschool teachers are masters at knowing what works and what doesn't when it comes to making kids happy. You chose this preschool for a reason, let the staff prove that your instincts and research was well-founded.
3. Establish a good-bye routine. Preschoolers crave routine. So come up with a couple of things that you do each time you say goodbye. Maybe it's a secret handshake or a special high-five. Maybe you kiss her chin or tweak her nose. Whatever it is,  make sure you do it every single time.
4. Confront the problem head-on. Bribing your child to stay in school may work -- temporarily. Sneaking out might make you feel better. But the best way to cope with preschool separation anxiety is to just deal with it. The reality is, that within minutes of their parents' exit, most kids happily settle down. And within days (sometimes weeks), the tearful goodbyes end. 
5. Try a change. Kids often behave better for people other than their parents. If there's a relative, friend or neighbor that's game, let them handle the dropping off for a few days and see if there is a change in your child's behavior.
6. Enlist the help of home. Its important to let  child know  that you love them very much and that you are thinking of them often. Together, pick out something that your child can bring to school with them that reminds them of home -- a small stuffed animal, a photo, even a smiley face drawn on their hand. 
7. Never let them see you sweat. Don't let your child see that their preschool separation anxiety is getting to you.  Smile, talk about how much fun she's gong to have and then once you are out the door, call a friend to vent and cry.
8. Don't be late for pick up.  No matter who is picking your child up, whether it is you or someone else, make sure you are there on time -- early even. If you are late, it can cause your child even more anxiety and make dropping her off the next time that much harder.
9. Get the teacher involved. Talk to your child's teacher.Make an appointment when you can talk to her, if possible without your child present. 
10. Be prepared for regression. Just when you think you finally have preschool separation anxiety under control, along comes a school vacation or an illness that keeps your child home for a few days and -- tah-dah! -- it's back again. This is perfectly normal. While upsetting, it's likely just to last a day or two and your child should go back to his cheerful self at drop-off time quickly.
11. Give your child something to look forward to. Most grown-ups aren't thrilled with the idea of being left in a roomful of people they don't know. If it's possible, put some friendly faces in the crowd by scheduling playdates with some of your child's classmates. If your child arrives at preschool and sees someone they recognize, they may be more likely to settle down and relax.
12. Be honest. Talk to your child about what they are feeling and why. Ask them what makes them so upset about you dropping them off at preschool. Share a story about a time that you may have felt scared or nervous about something and how you dealt with it. Talk about why you want your child to go to preschool and how much fun they are going to have while they were there. Don't minimize their fears or concerns -- address them while assuring them that you will always be there to pick them up once school is over for the day.
13. Help your child do his homework. Before preschool even starts, talk to your child about the whole process, preparing her for what she can expect to happen. Do site visits, go on bus rides and even read a few books about what preschool will be like and what she will do there. Knowledge is power and the more information your child has, the more empowered she's likely to feel.

Tips:

1. Don't drag out saying goodbye and don't sneak out either. Keep it simple -- one kiss, one hug and out the door you head. And never bring your child home with you.
2. Keep your own emotions in check. Kids are surprisingly adept at picking up on what we grown-ups are feeling, even if we are trying to hide it.
3. Discuss what is going on with your child's teacher, but not during drop-off or pick-up time. Make an appointment to discuss the matter privately.
4. See if you can get another relative or friend to bring your child to school to see if a change in routine makes a difference.
5. Be prepared for your child to regress a bit after vacations, after he's been out sick or if something eventful is going on at home, like the birth of a sibling.

What You Need

• A small reminder of home, like a photo or stuffed animal
• Patience
• A strong support system in place -- teachers, friends, etc.
• A goodbye routine that you follow each time

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SOWING THE SEED FROM YOUNG

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Tips for Smart Snacking

So how do you turn preschoolers into smart snackers? 

• Keep healthy snacks in your refrigerator or pantry. Let kids choose their own snacks from among a couple of nutritious options. 
• Offer a variety of snacks, not just the ones kids already likes. Offer new choices, but don't give up on foods that may have been rejected in the past. It may take several tries before a child accepts a new food. 
• Have a schedule for meals and snacks. This lets kids manage their hunger and learn that it's OK to skip a meal or snack because there will be another chance to eat at the next scheduled time. 
• Don't let kids eat in front of the TV. Serve snacks and meals at the table. 
• Keep mostly healthy foods in the house, with those high in calories, fat, and added sugar kept to a minimum. This doesn't mean kids can never have these foods, but they should be offered only once in a while. 
• Serve skim or low-fat milk or water with snacks instead of sugary drinks and soda. Limit 100% juice to one serving per day. 
• Make your preschooler a part of the action! Kids this age feel important when adults let them help out. Let them do what they safely can to prepare their own snacks — whether that's tossing the fruit salad or putting utensils and napkins on the table. 
• Keep an eye on how your child's moods affect eating patterns. Preschoolers often confuse boredom or fatigue with hunger. If your child just ate and is complaining of hunger again, see if a change of scenery or some active play could do the trick. 
• Share a healthy snack with your kids, who will follow your lead and get the message that you're serving something good.
• http://kidshealth.org/parent/nutrition_center/healthy_eating/preschool_snacks.html?tracking=P_RelatedArticle